Take Yourself Seriously?

Do you? Really??

For most of my life, I did not either. I spent my life trying to prove myself, trying to get others to love me, trying to prove to myself I was worthy.

I was busy helping others so they would love me, yet I was not able or willing to receive help. When I was able to reach out and receive help my entire world changed. I was able to give selflessly and with love, instead of want.

As I began to take my life seriously, I began to take actions that helped me see, feel experience my worthiness. As I sit writing this, I am taking my life seriously. I am sharing my experiences and opening the door of my failures and successes, so they might inspire others.

Over the past years I have overcome some pretty intense situations. I have been willing to put the work into healing and allow myself to become whole and complete...ya even though some crazy stuff happened to me. I am letting go of the past and allowing myself to be here right here and now.

I am proud of myself for taking myself seriously and doing the work necessary to bring my gifts and skills to full blossom. It is hard work that I gotta tell ya, feels amazingly great. I face my stuff, hang with it to learn and move forward. I try not to allow the hard stuff paralyze me any more like it used to. These days, I am smart enough to reach out to others to help me through those hard spots.

I take my life seriously enough to know, I not not have all the answers nor should I. Oh right, that is why there are all these amazing people in my life...hee hee

We are all blessed with amazing people in our lives. By virtue of being in relationship with these people it is our responsibility to tap into their greatness! When we ask for help we get to make them feel like thay matter. That we respect them and love them, and are willing to be helped by them. WOW! Win! Win! We all get to feel good. Quite the miracle...

So the question is...Are you willing to take your life seriously and ask someone for the help you need??

Maybe it is hard to reach out to someone you know because you think they will judge you, been there. I started by asking professionals and eventually I created the right blend of professionals, friends, family and even strangers that turned into friends...

Your life, your dreams, YOU, ARE worth taking seriously! I know it you know it!!

If ya really ready...contact me...I am patient and a heck of a lot of fun to grow with...

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Are you alive?

When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability... To be alive is to be vulnerable.
Madeleine L'Engle (1918 - ), "Walking on Water: Reflections on Faith and Art", 1980

Who do you allow yourself to be vulnerable with?

What are you missing out on by keeping yourself closed?

Who do you feel drawn to open yourself up to?

Each and every day we have choices to open ourselves to possibilities, to others, and most importantly to love. Taking chances with our minds, requires one sort of risk, while chances of the heart are unquantifiable. I know each and every time I choose to open my heart and mind, I choose to be open to God's love that flows through others.

I know as I open my heart, the wounds that have happened in the past are exposed. I also know that by opening, they are healed too.

When I open my mind, new ideas and energy flows from places that often surprise me and very often astound me.

This notion of vulnerability has me thinking about truly being seen. Allowing myself to seen by those around me and trusting that I will be loved and accepted is a leap of faith. I know that it is the trust I have in myself and my intuition empowers me to open myself to the people who are worthy of my trust.

As I open my self, I see others around me open up. It is a rare thing to be able to be in that space of trust and faith with another person. Be it a friend, a colleague, or a lover, each requires a willingness to be vulnerable to achieve the highest levels of intimacy. Intimacy on all levels, be it Intellectual, emotional, physical or spiritual demands faith in oneself and the other.

My experience has shown me the depths of intimacy takes time to develop. There are relationships that evolve quickly and others slowly. The pace of true intimacy developing is directly proportional to the amount of vulnerability each person is willing to expose.

In my life, I feel as if I develop deep relationships with people pretty quickly because of my willingness to be vulnerable. I have decided for myself that I desire deep relationships and that I have enough faith in myself and God to open myself. I trust that I am opening myself to the right people and I will learn and grow from every relationship I have.

Intimacy scares many people. I thrive in it. I love the space of it and open myself to all that it has to offer. I know that the risks I take and the hurts I experience are far out weighed by the gifts and blessings I receive. I have deep faith in bliss. I believe in a world that creates relationships and experiences that are full of love. Yes there are relationships that are hurtful and impure. I just refuse to believe that if I keep myself shut down, I will find the right relationships.

Yes, I have opened myself up and been hurt. I have also learned and grown immensely from them. I look back on each relationship and take the lessons and put them into play as I create the next ones. I am fascinated by the correlations between personal and business relationships and how they potentially can inform and inspire each other.

I am currently developing several business alliances, that I believe have great potential. As we work to solidify the agreements, we have been required to expose ourselves. I believe we have been able to do that because we each desire to be in alliance with people who share values and dreams. With out the willingness to open up, it would be impossible to create together.

We have been sharing elements of ourselves professionally and personally that have allowed us to see each other fully and hence make decisions to develop alliance or not. I believe my willingness to open, has allowed them to open. A colleague, shared that he had never so easily come to consensus on goals as easily as we did.

As we expose ourselves, be it intellectually, emotionally or spiritually we take chances that we will be hurt, judged, and maybe even be asked to do something that we do not want to do. Fear of these potential risks often close us to down to seeing the possibilities.

We know, we are all looking to be loved and accepted as we are. We desire relationships that respect our hopes and dreams. We seek support of them in every way. As we expose those dreams, we take the risk that the other person will not support it or worse disrespect them.

With each step in faith, I know I am able to create meaningful and impact full relationships. I believe in the power of love, non-judgement and faith. If I have faith, all things are possible...

Do you trust yourself to open up to the right people?

Are you willing to step in faith?

GO FOR IT!!!

What do you need to face?

Is there something that you have been avoiding?


What are you afraid to take a look at?


What is the growing cost of running?


Is facing it alone scary?


Each of has something in our lives we put off, avoid, and often wish would just go away. What I have learned the hard way, is the longer you put it off, the harder it gets to face. I know in my life, my food addiction was what I avaoided talking about like the plague. I went for years just running from it, I spent years allowing myself to make believe it just was not that bad, until one day I found myself 320 pounds. Crazy, I must have been pretty out of it as I look back. I know that each day I ran from it the harder it got to deal with and the fatter I got.

What I have been learning recently in working on research for my upcoming book, Who's Helping Who?, is that most of us are unable to face our problems and ask help until the situation becomes unbearable, or worse, desperate. What a sad thing. We find ourselves alone with our pain, shame, and the longer we try to face it alone the harder it is to ask for help.

I know with my eating disorder that the idea of asking for help was so hard. I kept thinking I could do it by myself. When I finally realized that if I could do it alone I surly would, I began to realize that my own efforts had gotten me to 320 pounds. That asking for help was the only way out.

As I speak with more and more people about this topic of help, I am amazed and saddened by the notions we have embedded in our society about the stigma of asking for help. We look at ourselves as weak, stupid, lazy, and worse yet unworthy, when the realization we need to ask for help dawns upon us.

What I have learned these past few years is that asking for help is so much easier when I just begin to get that pit of anxiousness in my stomach. When that little queezy feeling comes and the worry begins…ya know the feeling… When that first night of tossing and turning makes ya think, “Man, I need to take care of this!”

These days, I run less and less, and I find myself turning to ask for help so much easier.
I turn to my coach, my spiritual advisor, my sponsor…my people…

Though I admit there are still one or two areas that are so much harder…money is my Archilles heal that I am working on these days. As I continue to build my business and continue to invest in my dream, I am faced with tough decisions and tough realities to face. I know each time I am asked to face things head on it is tough, yet, I always feel so much better when I have spent some time discussing it and assessing it with my financial advisor.

So each day, I ask myself, what do I need to face today? Some days, I have the bravery to get right to it and other days, I say, maybe tomorrow. What I have vowed, is that I do not need to get myself to a place of pain or shame or anguish any more about asking for and reaching out for help. I know that I can get the help I need, whenever I decide the discomfort is taking away from my happiness and wellbeing.

Today, I am pretty unwilling to let anything get in the way of my happiness, so asking for help is a skill I have honed. Thank you God, that I have found the willingness and the courage to know my limits and to know I want to be happy and contented. So today, I find myself saying, fairly often, “ I need help. Do you think you might be able to help me?”

I know that the people who are able to help will say yes, and the people who cannot will say no. My part is the asking and God’s part is bringing the right person to my side to help me and allow me the pleasure of being helped.

Face what needs to be faced!

Know that there are people who can help you and want to help you!

Know you are worthy!

Know you can!